These are some wise words a friend wrote me. Take from them what you want.
Quote: You mention that you thought that at this point you would be able to pull your weight in a relationship with your wife. See that's just if Wes, I don't think that a good relationship needs to take that much work. Oh it's work, but work that you want to to do and have a choice in doing. With my husband I was running in circles trying to make him happy. I thought that that was my job too, and that's so draining. He'd tell me he didn't like something or something was wrong, so I'd change that. Then it would be something else, so I'd change that, until it finally hit me that it would always be something because he just wasn't a happy person. Now he's not happy and it has absolutely nothing to do with me. A healthy relationship should add to our person, not take away from us. There are many days when this still makes me sad, the difference is that I now know that I can do nothing to make him like himself, only he can do that. The same can be said for your wife I'm sure.
Don't you want to be able to come home to someone who would be your soft place to fall? I do. I want someone who makes me want to be the best person that I can be, not a different person than I am. I think if we're smart, and honest and don't make the same mistakes, we can have all that and more. Life is way too short to settle
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
