You dozing in a chair represents a transition phase in your life. You haven't yet got to the happy future you will have, you're just kind of waiting.
The OM was wearing stockings!?! N Y, that is weird
Cape, if you were wearing it, that usually means you feel the need to protect yourself against someone, but since OM was wearing it, I don't know. Maybe he is feeling threatened, insecure about his R with your XW?
Asian features - I dream that all the time. It represents parts of yours or his personality that are unknown to you or events which will occur which are currently unknown to you.
XW getting married - maybe she will and that is what you haven't been told, either that or it is your subconscious fear that she will.
Also, internalised jealousy at XW spending Christmas with OM.
