My dad used to call me Eeore (sp?), y'know, that donkey from 'Winnie the Pooh' because he said I was stubborn and moody like Eeore, and he sometimes called himself 'donkey' because he said he worked all the time, 'like a donkey'.
But every time I dream of donkeys, it's usually just a couple of weeks before a sexual encounter, and when people get married here, we spray paint 'jugs and donkey' and other stuff like that on their wedding car, but maybe that's a British thing
Well you said the blonde was from school so was she your first love?
You know what she wasn't my first love, nor was she ever really a girlfriend, but I know that we had off and on crushes on each other for a long time.
I met her the summer before 4th grade I remember liking her and her friend. Then we ended up changing schools the same year just by chance, so we ended up going to highschool together.
Maybe I dream about her because of having a longtime crush on her. I seen her at a hospital about 20 yrs ago when I was visiting her sister who had just had a baby. I told her sister that Maria looked hot, she was single, but I was already married so thats as far as it went. From what I gathered from her sister, Maria would have been interested if I wasn't married.
So I guess, I probaly dream about her because I was always attracted to her and because of all the BS I have gone through in this R. (Maybe she was my first love and I was to slow to figure it out) I had always considered a girl named Sheri that I dated my 10th grade yr to be my first love.
When I look at my XW I wonder where the person went that I married? Or did I marry someone that seemed energetic, happy, loyal and beautiful but was just covering up her issues?
One thing that kept me from committing to anything with Maria (the blonde) was that her mother was a bit wild. She had a MLC, D and remarried rapidly. I saw reflags, but I didn't see the red flags with my XW until a few yrs into the M.
Anyway they are fun dreams so I don't mind having them.
My Dream Setting= National emergency exist in the US. I am 35 and some kind of technician, electronics, computers, special printers I don't know what kind of job I had. Everyone (maybe 6 people in this big warehouse) worked 16 hours shifts. Everyone is kind of drafted but not in the military. No choice but to serve. 9/11 type of protect the US against the enemy. Part of the security plan requires no contact with anyone for 99% of the time. No passing national secrets or potential viruses or diseases. Anthrax or some type of flu plays into the picture.
Everyone bought into and saw the reason for the 99% of the time no contact with another person except for very short, business only e-mails, like; "Send 60 GB hard drive to location Ware house 7, Row 4, shelf 4 end of message."
I was in a warehouse type building and I had to be there all of the time. On one wall, there was a 3-walled area for a double bed. I had to sleep next to my work area and so did this other person. The bed was to the left of my work area and to the right of the other person's work area.
Enter a 28-year-old female that I never see that is assigned to the same bed but at a different time, (her side, my side, but never at the same time)
Someone asks or said "do you know you are sleeping in the same bed with a 5'5" 120#, 28 yr old brunette? I said no, but seemed to sense who ever slept on the other side of the bed was a female.
Big emergency in the warehouse. I work for almost 2 days straight. The lights go out. Everyone works by flashlight, the electronic equipment goes on stand-by internal batteries. A minimum amount of data is maintained and some comes in and some goes out to support the national emergency. The equipment and data flow is Coma like.
All of this becomes too much and even though I have not slept for a long time and it is not my time to sleep, some people go to their rest areas. My machines refuse to take in or put out any more information to support the national emergence and nothing I do helps, so I head for bed. It was so dark in the warehouse I had trouble finding my way to my rest area
Female X is not there so I assume her machines (a little different than the ones I am assigned to) are doing something more than maintaining a coma state, so she must be working. I go to sleep on my side of the bed.
About 6 hours late I feel something warm at my back. Am I dreaming, or am I in the wrong rest area? Did female X show up and not realize I was there. No inside light or light from outside. Would us being in the same area at the same time be looked at as passing spy type secrets, a way to transmit a super virus, or as work hanky panky/spousal cheating?
In the dream I woke up and we were surprised to see another person looking back at eachother in the dark. We talked about our spouses, families, and friends back home. I got the feeling we were both dedicated to people back home that we were both pillars of the community where we came from. I felt I had just met the most honest, and hard working person there is anywhere on the face of the earth.
Sorry for delay, I had to think about this. Wow, your dream is very vivid and detailed. It would make a good book!
First I'll try to interpret from a traditional, prophetic viewpoint and then I'll try to look at it from a psychology viewpoint.
Warehouses are symbols of money and prosperity if full and with busy people working in them, the opposite if empty or shabby. It's usually a sign of increasing income. It's the same interpretation if you were working as a guard.
Military Camp is success with a business venture, some stroke of good luck.
Beds are your sexuality.
Now here's what I think psychologically:
The warehouse is representative of your life and your M. You are feeling overworked in general, both in terms of your job and your M. You feel as if you are the one doing all the work to maintain your M.
The machines/computers represent your efforts to 'fix' things, or suggest you are spending too much waking time in front of computers.
The darkness is how you feel, you are confused as to what to do and don't see a clear path for yourself. It's the darkness before the dawn, so to speak.
Being assigned and forced to carry out a duty is basically your internal power struggle between wanting what you need for you and wanting to fulfil your duty as a husband. Keeping of secrets and guarding etc means you don't feel you can say how you feel and you don't want to share your thoughts with your W. You have your guard up because you are either resigned to the fact she won't listen or you are afraid of being hurt.
The 28 year old woman is your sexual fantasy. She is what you want from your W, but in an idealized form. The bed represents your M and your sexual R. The fact that the lights are off and nobody's home or you sleep back to back without knowing each other is true; it's demonstrating the lack of intimacy. You very often don't sleep in the same room.
Sleeping is a desire to escape the problem, but since you awoke to see this woman, it is also your desire for change and that you wish to build intimacy in your M and have that family situation that you were remenising about in the dream.
Thanks Jo. I value you insight and will look at it that way. I like other people’s view of events because mine are filtered through my history and I miss some things.
I have been reading your thread and have wished you peace so many times.
National emergency exist in the US To me this represented (=)the people that are in marriages that have sever troubles. big warehouse = maybe the board/forums here at DBing. worked 16 hours shifts = about all the time I think about what to do next to improve the R or what I did wrong. Everyone is kind of drafted = we are here but we don't like it. Drafted means we can't quit. 9/11 type of situation = rescue and damage control is needed. no contact with anyone for 99% of the time. No passing national secrets or potential viruses or diseases. = don't use the forum as a dating site. no contact with another person except for very short, business only e-mails, = talk about anything and everything in a business like manner. Don't read anything personal into any message. If some one likes sex 3 times a day and that person seems to be a potential dream partner, don't find ways to be with them. I had to be there all of the time. = Working on a R is full time work. The bed was to the left of my work area and to the right of the other person's work area. = the bed might be the internet. The bed might be the comfort I get from using the Internet. Enter a 28-year-old female that I never see that is assigned to the same bed but at a different time, = other honorable women going through the same thing as men on the board are going. do you know you are sleeping in the same bed with a 5'5" 120#, 28 yr old brunette? = some warning about something to do with if I were posting the things I post on a internet dating site it would be cheating. (her side, my side, but never at the same time) = keep your questions and replys on the academic side, friendly but not too friendly. Big emergency in the warehouse. I work for almost 2 days straight. The lights go out = times get tough, you work on the R extra hard. the more you do the more you see no hope. A minimum amount of data is maintained and some comes in and some goes out to support the national emergency. = you are civil to your spouse but it is mostly silence between you two. The equipment and data flow is Coma like = the R is almost dead but still breathing. so dark in the warehouse I had trouble finding my way to my rest area = feeling lost in the R, little hope of making meaningful changes. Female X is not there so I assume her machines (a little different than the ones I am assigned to) are doing something more than maintaining a coma state, = thinking other people, especially women are better at R repair or their situation is not as bad. About 6 hours late I feel something warm at my back = the feeling of understanding and help others offer you. Feeling someone cares about you or your R. Would us being in the same area at the same time be looked at as passing spy type secrets, = concern that what you post is over the line, too personal, can be used by a spouse to prove to someone you are in a EA with someone. In the dream I woke up and we were surprised to see another person looking back at each other in the dark. We talked about our spouses, families, and friends back home. I got the feeling we were both dedicated to people back home that we were both pillars of the community where we came from. I felt I had just met the most honest, and hard working person there is anywhere on the face of the earth. = My actual feeling about other posters when I am awake. I have met some very nice people here and see from what they post (I know it is one persons view) they seen dedicated to their R.
Thanks again JO. Maybe my ideas above are a little to concrete. I wanted someone elses opinion before I posted mine.
The 28 yr old female could have been StubbornDyke/SD from the Hopefulness forum. I was thinking a lot about her situation and she posted on my thread I was going to be in her area and was thinking about stopping to se her and some glacial remains.
I was in a bit of a dilemma about seeing another poster, especially another female. BB had a fit about me seeing a guy I worked with 20 years ago in an auto repair shop. She does not like people coming to the house. We went to breakfast (the guys day off work) near the house 4 times and BB asked if I was gay. I said no, we talked about transmissions, jobs, and vacations/holidays we have been on. BB was really upset. I am not buying into her silly ideas as much anymore.
Two specific dreams I had in the past few weeks: one was of a dying baby, clothed from head to toe in a gray sack. From what I've come to learn from this thread, I took it to symbolize the death/termination of a new event.
The second dream, more recent, was a brief dream in which a pretty woman, but not resembling my WAW, is my WAW, and telling me that she's changed and become a new person.
I wish I knew if these dreams were telepathic or if they're just my id.
I have a history of my dreams coming true, I am just not good at telling which ones will. I did not want to post before because I just need it time to processe it. Here it is:
On Monday Nov 7th I had a dream where I am standing next to my XH and where are looking at a pice of yellow paper with squares is a calendar. He points with his finger 4 squares down an says "I'll see you in four days will go out and start dating" In my dream I felt like yeah right and weird. When I woke up remembered I my dream but thought wishful thinking and did not want to keep thinking about it.
The next day he sents and email that he wants to talk and On Nov 11th we ended up going out.
I always get a little freaked out when stuff like this happens.
Hi, sorry for delay, I was in London and then I had a stomach bug.
Death usually means birth in dreams, either literal birth of a baby, or birth of a new phase in life, or a new creation or idea.
The baby could also symbolise you; you feel helpless and discarded, or it could mean that a new phase of your life or a R is in it's infancy.
The dream of your 'new' WAW could be that she is turning into someone you don't recognise, she is reforming her character or that you wish that she'd change.
You can learn which dreams are telepathic by journaling them and logging which events happen. Doing this is practise and will fine tune your brain to be more telepathic. The more you write them down, the more you remember them, the easier it gets to use your intuition.
All people have the 6th sense, it is just latent in most people because sadly these days people pay attention to their physical bodies and ignore their spiritual one and then society wonders why there is so much depression etc.
It's nothing to be afraid of and can be helpful in a lot of instances. I use it frequently to help me in my sitch with Andy and the kids.
Here are some pointers for telling whether a dream is likely to be telepathic:
1. Telepathic dreams are always in colour. 2. There is a clear storyline to it, usually with a beginning, middle and end. 3. The message in it is very clear, e.g, if your XH tells you something and you remember every word, that is likely to be a prophetic message. 4. The same dream keeps repeating - that is a sign that your subconscious is trying to tell you something and you haven't got the significance.
Non-prophetic, or dreams which don't come true and are either release or processing dreams, are often black and white, flitting from one scene to the next, in no logical order or that you have difficulty remembering. These types of dreams aren't likely to be particularly significant.
This is just a rough guide, but I hope it helps. As I said to the other poster, if you journal your dreams, you get better at remembering them and decifering which ones are telepathic. Practise makes perfect!
Jo, I had the dream about the blonde named Maria again last night. We always make out secretly, I always wake up before we go all the way.
Last night we were together in some strange places, tons of people around and kind of a post atomic war surroundings. Very strange, weird buildings, canals and slapped together transportation (Maxx something? style).
We were driving down this road, west of a town in North Dakota that I went to grade school in. There is a huge lake there because of a dam built on the Missouri River. We were close to one of the bays and a hurricane sized torando sucked up all of the water out of the bay. There were these funnel clouds everywhere sucking up the lakes. We were speeding to get out of harms way.
When I woke up I was so disoriented, I really felt like I have just spent the last few days with Maria.
