Just a quick question. What about pheasants in your dream? Are they in the same category as birds? We have several in our yard, and my dream was several females following 2 males. then a dog had one in his mouth from hunting, dropped it then picked it up with a very soft bite. I was excited and wanted to share that with my ex. I can't remember if I did or not.
Throughout the last 10 yrs, I go through periods where I have a similiar set of dreams.
I have a a dream that I am having sex with a blonde named Maria. (I was good friends with a Maria and dated her a few times, never slept with her and have not seen her in twenty yrs) In the dream my wife has cheated on me and we are either seperated or D. I meet Maria in the dreams, we are usually out doing something together, then we end up at either her place or mine. In almost every dream we ML or are about to go all the way, then somehow my XW contacts me. I am still in love with her so, I hide evidence and act like nothing is going on with Maria.
When W and I were married I had the same dream several times. For a few days after the dreams I would feel guilty, they seemed so real and at times I would have to tell myself this could not have happened I haven't seen her in twenty yrs.
I have never cheated on my XW so it can't be that I feel guilty from actually having a PA.
Jo, I know your busy, but someday let me know what you think is going on. I have never told anyone about these dreams, but since you have knowledge of dreams and their meanings I decided to see what you think.
I dreamt before awakening today that my ex W approached me and bemoaned that she's only having sex twice a month with the OM she's living with. I said, "He's 60. That may be the reason". She asked me if I wanted to have sex with her because she wanted some, and I acted didn't show enthusiasm nor say yes, just saying "let's see what happens" (though I wouldn't mind. For goodness sakes, I'm DBing in my dreams even!).
In the dream, she also showed me some photos of herself. I looked on the back to see when they were taken, figuring they were recent. But one was date stamped Apr 1 '03. That was a time period when we were supossedly working on our marriage after an EA had been discovered and allegedly ended. It's also April Fool's Day... hmmm.
In real life, I've started seeing a couple of gals, neither of which we've gotten to that sexual stage.
I also note that these dreams I have about my ex occur right before I wake up in the morning.
There was an email from my ex in my inbox this morning! Nope. Didn't ask me for sex!
Sorry for delay. I've had all this stress, the egg retrival etc etc and it's only now I feel up to it.
Birds normally relate to love, but not if they're dead, and pheasants also relate to money and finances. People eat pheasants so it's about being able to provide for yourself - usually signifies increasing prosperity.
Dogs are a symbol of friendship, 'man's best friend', indicating that you will have or already have the friendship of somebody important to you.
Hunting is an obstacle dream, but if you caught the game (the dog did), then this is telling you that you will overcome your difficulties.
What was your M like? Was it always up and down or was it happy before she got addicted to painkillers?
The reason I ask is that people usually dream of affairs/sex with other people when they are sub-consciously unhappy with something in their R, or sexually unhappy or maybe even just bored.
Your previous gf represents the new and exciting changes you wanted in your R and the sexual fantasies which you hadn't fulfilled properly with W.
Trying to cover up the affair would be you trying to juggle your own needs and fantasies against that of being a responsible H.
Well it's either prophetic (telepathic), in that maybe her OM isn't sleeping with her all that much so that is what she is really thinking (this happens to me a lot, I dream of stuff that he actually ends up saying or I later find out is true).
The other explanation is that it's a healing dream - you're dreaming that she isn't happy etc either for unconscious 'revenge' or because you don't want her to be with OM. I mean, let's face it, everyone feels sick thinking of their spouse with another person!
Thanks, I appreciate you taking the time to read my dream for me.
Hi jdd
What was your M like? Was it always up and down or was it happy before she got addicted to painkillers?
Our M has been up and down for the past ten yrs, W always had some tendencies to be OCD even in the beginning. I was unhappy sometimes about money issues and the amount of things that were left up to me to do.
We are now D, but get along better because I don't try to control anything. I still have alot of pain and hurt that comes and goes. She left her cell phone bill laying on the tv stand, as of Oct. 5 or there abouts she is still talking to OM from Oklahoma. She tells me that its over and she don't talk to him. This was my first snooping in a longtime, but at least I didn't confront her.
I wonder why I dream about the girl from highschool instead of a lady or two I am attracted to now?
Well you said the blonde was from school so was she your first love? Because that's significant and people rarely forget their first loves, even if there was no sex.
Maybe that's why you dream of her and not a current lady.
As for your XW, you mentioned recently (I think?) that she had taken meds again, so if she's still using drugs you likely can't get accurate or truthful statements out of her.
In my humble opinion, a lot of addicts don't do anything until they are forced to, and if that was me and my X had given an assurance he wasn't communicating with OW and then I found he was, I wouldn't let it go, I would not pretend I didn't know, even if that isn't DB'ing.
My X is still 'friends' with one of his OW, but he is upfront about it, not that I think it's acceptable, but it's better than lying about it. Sorry if that's a bit blunt but I wouldn't put up with it.
In fact, my X still had a book from EX-OW2 at his house, dated June 05 and with a sleezy message in it from her. He was out at the time, so I ripped the message out, tore it into pieces and threw it in the trash - I would have set it on fire but I was worried I'd make his smoke alarms go off
Then I put the book in my overnight bag and when I went to the hospital the next morning, I threw it in the rubbish bin Don't care if he notices it's gone, either.
I dreamt I was with Andy and he was saying I don't know anything about his life and I said yes I do, and I know your friends from the home ed group, they've even given me money to pass onto you (this is true in real life).
Then DD2 started screaming and ran into this bathroom crying and Andy followed her and I ran after him, saying 'leave her alone.'
Then Andy came out of the bathroom with this donkey and on the donkey was a baby which was actually DD1 when she was about 9 months old.
Then I was shown the date 24 November 2005, written down.
Then DD4 woke me up so I have no idea what happened next.
I have only dreamt of DD2 twice in the last 18 months - I don't dream of her as a rule and the last and only time I did was just before her therapist told me she was having counselling, so now I am worried that something is up with her and I'm going to ask Andy about it when he comes here on Saturday.
A donkey is usually a sexual symbol ('hung like a donkey') so I'm dreading that as it means he'll try and get fresh again, but maybe because it's nearly Christmas, it relates to birth? (Mary was carried on a Donkey when pregnant with Jesus).
DD1 was 9 months old on her first Christmas, so maybe this is just an actual memory of that or maybe it means the conception of my donor baby has occured in the infertile woman and maybe this baby will look like DD1? Dunno, really.
Don't know what will happen on the 24th - that's only a few days away. I'll have to wait and see.
