Well, as they were real I'm not sure you can draw any significance from it. In dreams they symbolise love affairs, unless trapped or dead.
I too saw a mother deer and her baby in a forest in Ireland when I was 15 (real life). I did actually fall in love with Andy 18 months following the sighting but I don't think the 2 are connected.
As promised, here is some of my own personal dream diary with things which have come true, for anyone who thinks dreams are BS Please note that I also sometimes hear voices (no I'm not mad, LOL) and see pictures of things whilst awake and I journal these too:
25th July 2004
I had this disability where my eye sight was narrowing and I couldn't see and was getting frustrated. Then I was with Andy and someone asked him if we had slept together yet and he said no but 'you never know what will happen in the future.' * This one came true as of December 04. Narrowing eye was my lack of trust in my ability to see future.
5th August 2004
I was at a toddler group with DD4 and Andy was missing so I went outside searching for himand found him naked, curled up in a ball, crying about how he is depressed and he misses me and his life isn't the same without me. I felt pity for him. * This came true, he said exactly that in December 04.
13th August 2004
I was talking to Melanie (friend) and she was saying she'd heard I had an OM. I said no, that's only G and I'm not seeing him anymore. Then Andy came round for this contact and we had sex and he was trying to hide it from Mrs Simpson. * This came true and he did tell me not to tell EX-OW1.
2nd September 2004
I saw orange trees and then Andy said he wanted to get back together. We kissed. * This came true December 04. I was in Cyprus, showing DD4 orange trees and when I got back from holiday, Andy said he wanted to get back together and we did kiss.
21st September 2004
I had a ginger cat with a squashed leg (?).
* OMG - on 23rd Sept, the guy who decorated my house came round and gave me a ginger kitten!!!!!!!!!! Don't know what squashed leg means.
PPS: on 19th October 04 Simba (my kitten) has injured his leg when DD4 pulled him through some chair slats.
12th October 2004
Andy gave me flowers and we had sex. Obviously freudian wish fulfilment as I haven't had any for 3 months, LOL.
* This came true, we ML on 30th Dec 04, but I didn't get the flowers, LOL.
17th October 2004
I dreamt of fish and a clock. Fish are the symbol of God/death. Clock, wasting time? Time running out? My death??? Hope not.
* as of 16th November 04, Sam (friend) told me that her bf's father fell down the stairs and they can't stop the internal bleeding. He is on life-support, it has to be him!
PPS: as of 23rd November 04 - they switched off life support and he has now died.
(I had this same dream 10th October 05 for Andy's dad).
3rd June 2005
I was walking in the woods and Andy phoned me and said 'we need to talk' so I went to meet him in these woods and when I got there I said 'what did you want to talk about?' Then I woke up! Damn!
* This came true 20th June 05, he left a message on my phone, 'we need to talk', about the car incident which happened on the 17th.
25th June 2005
Andy was standing there whisking a bowl of eggs, then this spirit voice said 'he likes to stir things up'. Then another voice said, 'he will be back on your doorstep soon.' *This came true in August 05.
6th July 2005
I was with BIL and he was crying because I forgot him. Also, when not asleep I closed my eyes and saw 'I love you' written down. It was weird, like written down behind my eyes, and also '30th August'. Don't have a clue what 30th August means!
* This came true - 30th August was the day he came round for dinner, wanting me back, and the day after we kissed! He did say ILY on 1st September 05! BIL did visit for the first time in 2 years.
10th October 2005
I saw 2 goldfish swimming in a goldfish bowl. Death?? And a clock. Then a voice said 'I'm going home' and 'I'm going to die.'
* This came true, couple of days later Andy told me about his dad and this unfortunately happened.
21st October 2005
I was kissing Andy by that tree where we first kissed. Then I was in by this strange house I don't know, but it was my home in the dream. Then I saw all these trees and Andy was planting new saplings. Then I got stung on the hand by a wasp. A warning to be wary of him???
*NO. DD3 got stung by a wasp on her hand on 24th.
These were just a few to show people that they can be prophetic.
greekgodess, I have most of your post with great interest, i was wondering if you could explain my dream from last night. I must point out that i don't usually dream but this one surprised me, I was walking along the street when i woman statring to follow me (couldn't make out her face) minutes later the OW who i had a A with followed behind aswell. they both start to walk faster to try and catch me up and couple of times were pushing each and i rememmber saying stop it i not interested. evenually i i started to run and i hid in an alley until they both walked by and went the other way. thats were it ended weird i wouls say, can you help me on this pls.
After Keith, I'd like your input on a dream that I had this morning. Here it goes--mind you, there were two separate dream scenes.
Scene One
I am at a college campus talking with Ms. Frankel [she was a professor of French language and a lesbian] who dominates my attention [Ms. Frankel is a forceful person herself]. Glancing around me, I catch a clear glimpse of my DW following me about 30 feet behind me. I attempt to send a subtle, non-verbal message to DW that I am trying to shake off Ms. Frankel. Outside, I manage to shake off Ms. Frankel and I turned around to find DW. Alas, DW was no where and I turned around scanning the surrounding area looking for DW. Did not see her anywhere.
Scene Two
There is a semi-dark area [indoor] with a 6 x 6 rectangular pool that has chest-high water of approximately 4 feet deep. I am in a one-piece bathing suit. Ms. Frankel is sitting in a chair beside the pool directing some sort of competition where people are paired up. I catch a very fleeting glimpse of my SIL [DW's older sister] inside the pool. I do not recall seeing DW at the scene at all. I am already inside the pool judging the competitors and relay my observations to Ms. Frankel. At one point, I see that one of the pairs had gone underwater. I take a dip underwater and swim toward the pair. To my left is a young white girl playing finger string games with her mother who is on my immediate right. In the mother's hands, I see "The Ladder" formation.
End of Dream
Jo, mind you, this is the third time that I've dreamed of scenes that involves swimming pools and children. Here is a brief background of DW and I. We've been together nearly 10 years and we did plan to have children together [we do not have any]. Below, I am going to detail the two previous dream sequences that I had over the summer of 2005. They were very clear and detailed.
First Dream
There is an in ground retangular shaped swimming pool further back in my backyard. [Jo, for real life information. My property used to have an in ground pool that the previous owner had covered up prior to selling the property to DW and I back in 2002] It is a bright, sunny day. My DW had on her clearly distinctive one-piece bathing suit that is dark navy blue with white polka dots. She had on a gardener's hat and sunglasses. DW was in the shallow part of the pool holding a 10-month old baby in her arms [it is a boy] and a near 2-year old girl is in the background area. I am in my black, one-piece bathing suit with my own sunglasses. I am smiling and DW is smiling. It was a happy, fun family scene. The temperatures were in the comfortable 80s (in F) with a soft breeze.
Second Dream
An indoor scene. There is an indoor pool with plants around and long tan, vinyl lounge chairs around the area. I am in the pool with BIL and his son [my nephew by marriage] playing with the son who is 7 years old in that scene. DW and SIL [DW's older sister] are to my left with SIL's 2-year old daughter [nephew's younger sister] holding her up by her chubby, cute hands. My MIL is to the right of them fully clothed. I am not sure if I saw FIL or not...not clear. [Real life information: I think it is because FIL currently has Alzhemier's disease and has not been able to participate in family activities]. Later on in the dream, I am in the pool with DW alone. We stand close together, facing each other and engaging in conversation. Cannot recall the contents of the convo. DW's family is lounging by the chairs and tables while DW and I are in the pool.
My interpretation
I am not up to speed on dream interpretation. I am a toddler in that respect, Jo! Anyway...water to me represents renewal, joy, and new life. Am I about right? What is with the kids in these dreams??!!
More Real Life Information:
In the past, I've had nightmares of DW and the OP where I am physically fighting with the OP with fists flying all over the place. DW has told me in these dreams that she prefers the OP over me. These nightmares played over and over from January 2004 until recently in the early summer (2005). Lately, I have had no nightmares of the OP [knock on wood!]. I've essentially stopped having these nightmares where the OP was present in them. Another recent development is that DW just sent me an email about two days ago that she moved away from the OP in Missouri and moved back to her hometown in the Northeast part of the USA because of a "better job opportunity." Our marital home is a 6-hour drive from her hometown. DW is interested in having our dog visit her since DW has our cat with her [I have the dog at home with me].
Hi Keith, sorry for the delay. I've been somewhat busy/preoccupied/stressed.
I'd say that running away in dreams is exactly that, running from your problems. You've had an affair which you are trying to 'get away' from the reality of, from the consequences etc.
Hiding is shame, lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem etc.
Ms. Frankel represents the obstacles you face with your wife; in this case Ms. Frankel isn't the actual person; she is symbolic of the challenges (i.e, you being worried that your DW would find her attention of you offensive) - it's all about how to gain your W's favour.
Swimming pools represent social situations and activities. It was an actual competition so this again represents your obstacles with W, feeling you have to win her back and being internally worried about people's judgements of you.
Finger games - well any sort of game is a reminder that it's not the winning that matters but how you play (i.e, how you conduct yourself through this time, how you treat W, etc etc, which is more important than whether you actually 'win' her or not).
Children are generally good luck, especially when playing, and adult fingers represent sexuality/love so this is the area that the dream is referring to when saying it's how you play that counts.
A ladder (either literal or suggested) relates to your life path, i.e, 'going up the ladder' often refers to career and/or love choices, 'going up in the world' etc etc.
Dream Two:
Again, swimming pools are social situations. Swimsuits are social disappointment (i.e, you are disappointed over the sitch with your W) - it is only lucky if you swam in the nude, LOL.
Her wearing sunglasses means you are distrustful of her and think she is hiding something from you, not giving you the full information.
Babies represent love/joy, either something you will have in the future with her or something that you wish you had. It's the same definition for the little girl.
I would say it's also your repressed desire to have children.
Breeze is changing directions are smiles are very good too, so I'd think all this means that you have been hurt/disappointed and you don't trust her but that things will probably turn around for you.
Dream three:
Again, swimming pools relate to social situations and activities. Children are good luck, joy, love etc. Plants are good too. If they were wild, this relates to love, if they were potted, it means a new baby will be born to your family or to close friends or even to you at some point in the future (the pot/vase represents the womb and the plant growing up from it represents the baby).
The chairs/loungers represent comfort and ease, unless they were empty, in which case it means you will hear surprising news.
To answer your question about water, it usually represents the life force/health/vitality and the womb, new life etc, love affairs, but this is only in relation to the sea, ponds, rivers, fountains, taps etc.
Swimming pools were artificially created for man's entertainment and therefore relate to social opportunity.
Sorry it took me so long to get around to this. You wouldn't believe the stuff that has happened in my life, LOL. I've just been ticking off a few more in my dream diary!
I've been patient as I knew you had a lot on your plate from reading your thread. Your strength amazes me.
Thank you for the dream interpretation. It does make a lot of sense to me. I appreciate it. One other thing, can you comment on the fact that my nightmares about the OP has practically ended? What are your thoughts on the recent developments in my sitch? Are they correlated?
Nightmares are release dreams (for healing purposes) - it seems horrible but if you didn't work through traumatic stuff in nightmares, you would go clinically mad.
Also, I believe that a couple, separated or not, can be psychically connected to each other; for instance, I have often dreamt of Andy and something he will say to me and then he turns round and says it for real, or if we have been abstinant for a while, I will dream of ML with him and then it happens in the same circumstances as in the dream. Certainly, while he was living with EX-OW1, I dreamt of her quite a lot (even before I knew she existed and then I met her and it was the same face as in the dream), because you're like tuning into your estranged partner's surroundings etc so you're picking this up in the dream. When she left, I stopped dreaming of her and I've only had 2 dreams with her in, in the last year, and then in a very abstract sense. With EX-OW2 I only dreamt of her a couple of times in total and that was always in relation to him choosing me over her (which he did do) and I couldn't actually see her face so I knew it was a casual fling and not important in the scale of things.
It could be that now she's moved away from the OP, that is why you have stopped having the nightmares, because the OP is not in her surroundings, and it could also be that time is passing so you are naturally healing from the pain and therefore getting less nightmares.
Please note that I also sometimes hear voices (no I'm not mad, LOL) and see pictures of things whilst awake and I journal these too:
