these were not the answeres I was looking for!!! My H used to say to me every morning" time to get up sleeping beauty" So when I woke I thought maybe this was a sign that we may progress towards a different R. NOt that he was trying to tell me to move on. Oh well.
It could be either, though, Julie, he may well become more interested but I'm just pointing out all possible interpretations.
I would write them all down so you can see how they develop and then you will get some either of whether you have prophetic dreams or not (not all people do).
Jo.
PS: I looked on your thread and can I just say, you can't know what your XH is thinking and it is your assumption that he wants the house to fall apart because you are in a negative frame of mind and thinking the worst. The truth is, your XH is in WAS mode so the only person he thinks of atm is HIMSELF, and that's why he's vague. He may snap out of it when he snaps out of WAS mode.
Quote: Was it you who dreamt of snakes etc or are you referring to something on here?
I was in a house, do not know whose house, but there were snakes EVERYWHERE, floor, furniture, cabinets, everywhere and then I was in a terrarium with them.
You said it's been 2 years since you last had sex, right? Snakes are a sexual symbol (for the penis) so they demonstrate your sexual desire.
They can also represent sexual competition or your fears of it or a sexual affair you will have which may or may not be to your best interests.
I had a dream where Andy and I were ML, and then his penis turned into a snake which then curled itself round my entire body and strangled me. This was a warning because a couple of weeks later he wondered off again.
Given the hand-holding symbol, I think it represents some kind of affair you will be having (or a strong desire for one).
This is awesome - what you are doing. I bought a dream book (only read two chapters) and began a dream journal about six months ago, in the hopes of sorting out my feelings toward EX and our R or non R, is more like it, but I didn't follow through. Maybe I will start again.
I did have one dream just after the BOMB that I still remember vividly. I didn't understand then but after reading DR I did. Basically it was a foreshadowing of the roller coaster ride I would be on during the years my now EX was full into alien behavior.
But I'd like to ask you about the ending of the dream. And that is that after the fast and scary roller coaster ride I was ejected to a beach-like path. I was standing up and just gliding across the sand until I came to a stop and could walk away. I think my arms were up in the air.
I've always figured that it meant that I would be OK after all this drama and trauma, be strong and renewed but that I would be alone, as now-EX was not in the picture at all.
What do you think? Am I way off base? or close? I wanted it to be different (didn't we all?) I always pictured that the EX and I would be walking along in the woods together, holding hands, happy in our new R, but I don't remember ever dreaming that during sleep. I did have daydreams of that, kind of like a mental picture to help me stay the course.
With Respect... I find difinitive interpretations hard to connect with. The whole vagueness of dreams I find impossible to pin down. Why is dream interpretation always so new-agey? Yet, some peoples' prespectives posted here are quite clinical.
I have a love/hate relationship with sleep and dreams. I have very vivid dreams. Have my whole life. During the hell period of my separation, I used to wake up after a dream that we got back together. It was so vivid, I did not know immediately if the hell of the divorce was real or just a dream. Then when I realized it was truly was over, I re-lived the pain of losing her again.
I read recently that people who suffer from depression often dream considerably more than those who don't. And also that dream sleep was less restful. This was an opinion... not supported that I could see.
I do know that when I dream... mornings are hell for me. I have many, many times, in my post-dream morning haze decided that that day was the day I would end my life. Then... it only took a few minutes after being out of bed and re-entering the real world for me to feel normal again. I would function normally, work hard, spend time with kids, etc. All fine. Then night woudl come around again and I would worry that I would go through the cycle of sleep/dream torture again. Only to wake up suicidal yet again.
Those days are for the most part gone. Life is coming together very satisfactorily. I am in sales and have the energy and focus to work productively.
But I still, from time to time, dread bed time... cause I never know when the dream thing will show up.
Well, actually dreams aren't new age at all because people since the dawn of time have used them. The first dream interpretations were written down in 2070 BC.
There are people like Plato and physician Hippocrates (responsible for the hippocratic oath)who used dreams in philosophy and for medical diagnosis. Also Aristotle.
Then there's Joseph (father to Jesus) who was going to divorce Mary until he dreamt of an Angel who told him she was pregnant with the Christ child. And Joseph with the coat of many colours who basically did what I do on here (but without the computer, LOL) and saved his community from famine. In fact, the bible is fascinating as it has people using their dreams all the way through.
More recently, there was Mary Shelley, who wrote Frankinstein from a nightmare she had after her baby died, Elias Howe (inventor of the sewing machine) who got his design from a dream.
Robert Louis Stevenson got his idea for 'Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde' from a dream and music composer Mozart got many of his melodies from dreams.
The potential of the human being is only part used when they ignore these gifts that dreams give us. I think it is part of the reason why there is so much depression these days. People pay attention to their physical body but not their spiritual and emotional one. Even many physical illnesses are linked to the mind and most doctors just treat the person as a set of physical symptoms rather than looking at the role their mind played with their immune system.
Anything people don't automatically understand is met with suspicion/fear or thought of as 'hippy' or 'new age' because it's not a 'rational' way of being, to rely on one's intuition anymore - especially in these days where everyone is so obsessed with proving everything in a lab.
What you describe happening are healing dreams. You dreamt of your X and getting back together because you were easing your own pain at the separation and if you're going through bad tomes in real life, the mind will often dream nice things to compensate (that way it balances out your emotions) - if you didn't have this you would go mad.
So although the dreams are horrible, they are a necessary part of your grieving process. I had the same thing, too.
Thanks for the reply... am just saying that I usually find interpretations so mystical and subjective. Not that I do not believe that dreams are not meaningful or a part of normal human function.... I guess I am saying that I have heard/read about difinitive interpretation of dreams and other less tangible phenomena... that simply cannot be represented as fact.
Yet... I am aware that some productive and tangible things have arisen from dreams such as the accounts you mention. Dream interpretation was huge in the Bible... look at the other Joseph from the old testament... or Daniel...etc. Yet those are historical accounts after the fact.
When someone makes a prophetic interpretation of what a dream should mean... the best I could do is put it on a shelf and give it respectful consideration... if time proves it out... it proves it out.
I have had "Prophetic Words" spoken over me from complete strangers which are bang on. I also know of situations where they were completely wrong.
So therein lies my uncertainty on the matter of interpretation of dreams or any other less tangible phenomena. Would like to believe... but has yet to prove itself out. For me anyway.
