Curious and curiouser! I had gone to a psychic last month as a lark, and she foretold some things that did come true. So I went back to her last week, and again, some of the stuff that she told me has been coming true. Now, she also told me that she saw my ex telling me that she feels "alone". My ex ran off with her old boyfriend in April 2004 and has been with him since. I told the psychic that, and she said she saw her telling me this, not him.
Well, I was posting on someone's thread about distance-pursuer dynamics in relationships, when I realized that in describing a distancer, it was comparable to the actions of a commitment-phobe, and then I remembered that the OM is an alleged commitment phobe - my ex had told me that she planned on keeping him around by not pressing him for a commitment - and then a light went on. She's been demonstrating love for him, "pursuing", and now that their relationship has gone on a while, it may be that he's gotten over the infatuation and he's distancing from her loving, and the result may be that she feels alone. Hmmm.
It seems to fit with some facts. Their relationship has a lot of independence on both parts, which suits a CP's need to keep distance in a relationship. I had recommended a movie I saw, and she responded by saying perhaps she'd go see it with her GF. I mentioned I was going to AC, and she replied that she was thinking of going there too for an overnight stay and was thinking of inviting her GF. Now, at the time, I thought it odd that she wouldn't go to the movies or to AC with her boyfriend, but chalked it up to him giving her space to do as she pleases, she told me several times that she finds her life "boring"... but now I'm thinking instead that this fits the CP pattern of not getting fully involved in activities with their partner.
I know this is all speculation. But the fact is that the OM is a CP... and things I know of him do fit the CP profile. And now the psychic's prediction, and the dream interpretation, fit right along with that. That's kinda strange yet interesting that it's all happening at this time. I guess I'll see what happens.
