MsNop: I'm not actually certain what you're getting at. Do you mean, what is on my list that I "want" from W? That's pretty clear: The actual list I gave W had things like, respect my boundaries, be a good role model for our kids(e.g. be mom-like to your stepkids, because their mom isn't very mommish), treat me as an adult, more physical touch, make love to me. Her list was manage my ex, stay within budget, follow through on agreements, give her space, continue my spiritual exploration, be honest.
I don't think either one of the extreme examples in the tv show you watched are like my sitch, although, both of them have elements of my sitch: lack of sympathy (especially regarding what she calls my "physical needs" and her referral to it as some sort of illness or male-only thing), verbal abuse during fights, kicking me out of "her" bed, and a similar wish that she would be "nice" to me more often.
I can tell that trouble is brewing right now. I can hear it in her voice when I talked to her on the phone this afternoon. She is stressed from work, and my radar is active. How am I preparing? I just keep telling myself that all of you are here, on my shoulder, whispering: fight the power! don't take that crap! keep smiling, it'll drive her crazy, you're a good person, walk away! stay out of her sh!t!, etc.
