Interesting. So, your contention is that in Hairy's silence, his not rocking the boat etc... Mrs. HD assumes that she is just the stellar spouse in all areas but the bedroom. Hairy, on the other hand is clearly deficient because there are so many things that she regularly complains about.
She's a pretty smart lady. Surely, somewhere inside she realizes that she bullies him into silence. I'm sure she does so to protect herself psychologically somehow but the result is that she makes sure he only has one "safe" area to complain about - sex. Periodically, she tries to even take away his right to complain about that too by saying that if he "accepts" her not being interested then things will magically change.
I have said it before and I'll say it again. Ms. HD is a uniquely tough nut to crack. She appears capable of some awfully complex verbal, emotional and intellectual gymnastics just to keep the status quo: Her "on top" in the R, making the decisions, deciding who is right and who is wrong and whether or not they will touch, talk or have sex.
I hope one day she reconsiders what all this is costing her.
