Quote: in another relationship after my marriage ended, I had sex on our first date...and we ended up dating for about seven months. It must be that I'm irresistable
I'm POSITIVE about this! I love those uptight Jewish guys! (I'm serious-- I loved Joel Fleishmann on Northern Exposure, and the tension between him and Maggie for all those years was delicious!)
The convo you reported in her mom's presence was interesting, to say the least! Does your W have to be non-sexy as a way of proving she's NOT like her mom and "other women"? Is it her way of being different and "special"? When the enneagram One (which I believe she is) moves in the direction of dysfunction, they move to Four. And the Curse of the Four (not to be confused with the Arthur Conan Doyle story of similar name) is the need to be different, special, unique, not like other people. (I am marked with the curse of the four. )
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