I agree with SD, that it's often easier to make yourself vulnerable to people who are not close to you. You don't really have a stake in whether they stick around, or not. So maybe I should be flattered that she feels so close to me that she doesn't want anything to do with me?!
Anyway, I don't know why she ML so early in the relationship. (Truth be told, in another relationship after my marriage ended, I had sex on our first date...and we ended up dating for about seven months. It must be that I'm irresistable). Who knows?
Early in the relationship, I remember the sex as fairly playful and fun, although she was not very "adventurous." She pretty much limited the positions to me on top or her on top. No oral. Nowhere but the bedroom. She would tell you that our sex life became stressful fairly early on, when after she had said "no" several times, I got "grumpy" or "grouchy" or "mean." Now, understand that "mean" means that I'd sigh when I'd roll over. Oh, and then there was that time that I was sitting in her mom's family room, and she was telling her mom how she didn't like to be touched at night by me because it made her feel like she had to pee. Her mom said, "maybe it wasn't that you had to pee." She winked at us. I said, "oh, no, it wasn't that either." This fairly benign and somewhat humorous conversation occurred five years ago and it is still brought up today as a clear example of how I can be so mean.
Whatever.
Lillie, things kind of went "downhill" from about 6 months into the relationship, as far as intimacy is concerned. Even in our second year together, I think we ML less than a dozen times. It has declined steadily since then.
