Thanks for dropping in, bf. I often think about the SSM people when I'm about to confront W. I'd imagine a little Nopkins or a little Corri or a little HP sitting on my shoulder, whispering advice and encouragement in my ear. Or, kicking my butt.
I want you there, too. I look back on some of the emails I exchanged with W when we first met, and I think, "what happened to that ballsy guy?" I need to find him again.
One question: You said that if I used the Modified-GEL approach, she will not respect me because I'd be putting her needs above mine. In actuality, I'd be placing my kids' needs for stability above my needs. How does that rate? Maybe it doesn't matter. To her, I'd be playing the martyr, and nobody loves a martyr.
