If she keeps stalling I think I'm going to pull a modified-GEL, which is kind of a modified-Hairdog. You see, your basic Hairdog is when you say to the spouse, in a calm, non-fight scenario, "I will not stay in a sex-less marriage forever." I did that, and although it had the benefit of getting us into counseling, W and MC suggested I back off from that because it was triggering abandonment issues in W's mind.
What I intend to do is issue this statement (attributed to a post of GEL's) in a calm, non-fight scenario: "I can not keep this up indefinitely. If you don't start doing some of the things I need of you, my feelings for you will continue to fade and eventually die. If that happens, I will be gone. Not physically, because I am committed to staying together for better or worse. But emotionally, I will be gone from this marriage."
