Thanks, cobra. I am doing a lot better at confronting her than I was doing a year ago.
I'm just kind of taking it all in right now. One thing I'm wanting some more specificity from her on, is this feeling of "safety" that she wants me to give her. I am, apparently, responsible for making her feel safe. (On the converse, she is, according to her, NOT responsible for making me feel loved). I want to ask her "safe from what?" And maybe I'll do that tonight.
She is leaving Friday on a trip with her Mom and sister for her mother's 60th birthday (or maybe it's her 65th, I'm not sure). They are going to Napa to get drunk, I guess. She's going to be gone until Wednesday the 19th. I think the distance/absence will be good for both of us.
