I don't have any good advice on how to deal with H during this time. I really admire how you're handling this physical intimacy "backslide" positively, even though these things can dampen our emotions despite our best intentions.
There are still a bunch of days to go before the end of the year; maybe you could take a little R break for, say, 5 to 7 of those days? Just recharge the batteries and set your keen mind to analyzing a different topic? Or even relax your mind entirely for awhile (apart from work, of course ).
Just a suggestion. You've got a great handle on where you are and where you want to go so maybe the best advice yo could get is to just keep following your own nose.
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