This is a very established pattern. I think Mrs.Nop or some of the LD's can help you better then I.
FWIW here is what I would do in response...
I tried to kiss her and got a very cold "Don't kiss me now!"
I would have stared at my watch for 10 seconds, the not NOW part, and then kissed her anyway and said ...'Oh My God, what will people think!!! You are so bad.'
only you know if this would have been a major breach to her though and disrespectful of her.
I understand wanting a different attitude, like I said its very established and will need some coaxing.
