Blackfoot, while it is more about attitude than specifics, I will attempt to communicate some specifics. First some background. I have in the past been guilty of taking my W for granted and due to a serious breakdown in our relationship have realized that I needed to put more work into the relationship. Our relationship was always "workmanlike". We got along ok for the most part, we took care of the kids, etc, but we didn't do things together. We had sex but we didn't have romance. Retrouvaille referred to it as living the "married singles" life. Along the way I realized that it wasn't just Mrs. Baltoman that needed more from the relationship, I did as well. I needed more sex, more emotional connection, more romance. There is an entire subtext to our breakdown that precipitated this revelation, but I will skip it at this time to keep this as brief as possible.
My W has a hard time with displaying affection. I would like her to come over, unsolicited, and give me a kiss or a hug on occasion. I would like her to initiate sex every once in a while or be a bit flirtatious (sp?). Examples of what I would have liked that did not happen. We were riding our bikes on a bike trail on a beautiful summer day and we got caught in a summer shower about 10 miles from the car. We waited it out under a tree. It was a hallmark, picture perfect romantic moment. I tried to kiss her and got a very cold "Don't kiss me now!". Another time we were taking a nice walk on Tighlman Island at night and she refused to kiss me because we were "in public" although there wasn't a soul around for miles.
She is a very considerate woman. She is an excellent mother. She just does not seem to be capable of passion. Maybe it is a MLC for me, but after 20 years I've decided that I don't want a roommate with occasional sexual connections, I want a lover.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
