Quote: I hope it has information for people in a HD/LD-ND relationship so there is a chance at more EC and sex/ML beyond theory.
This book is not about fixing a bad sex life. It is not about HD/LD or anything like that (althought there may be references in the book somewhere). The book is about masculinity and femininity. This is from a reader review
Quote: What this book ultimately reveals is a growing awareness of how men and women have both a male and female essence. The arc of polarity between the two is what counts in the realm of sexual satisfaction. If you have more masculine energy then you will attract a more feminine partner.
"For magnetic energy to flow, you need a north pole and a south pole. For sexual energy to flow, you need two poles too." ~David Deida
What makes a woman invite a man deeper into her world? Could it be as easy as the man listening to her and being fully present, strong and passionate? What are the qualities of an ideal woman? Yes, beauty does seem to be first, but intelligence is fifth on the list. It seems men want beauty and sex and women want presence and intelligence. Makes sense. What is a woman's deepest desire? It seems we women know what we want, but at times need to know why we are not attracting what we desire most.
Once you realize what attracts you to your opposite, you can start to work on areas to increase desire in your relationship. To find out which sexual essence you possess, there is a sexual essence quiz. This book also emphasizes the three main stages of Intimacy. Intimate Communion is the goal. This place where you are spontaneously loving or at least open as the sky. Where you see arguments as a place for self-improvement and welcome anger, extreme lust, the feminine sea of emotions and masculine possession.
This is not primarily a "relationship fixing" book. It's more about looking at your own masculinity/femininity and seeing where that is hindering or facilitating communication with the man/woman in your life.
