Quote: The "check engine" light came on in her car, which I took care of-it was a very minor fault that got stored in the car's computer memory, and that is what upped her interest in a new car.
I should add I heard all kinds of reasons for getting a new car when I worked fot the dealership so BB concern about the "check engine" light comming on was a BTDT event. I am not buying it.
"Intimate Communications" by David Deida just arrived. I glanced at it and it looks like it is mainly geared to couples willing to advance their sexual experiences. I hope it has information for people in a HD/LD-ND relationship so there is a chance at more EC and sex/ML beyond theory. I see something similar to blackfoots theories in there too.
Re cobra
Quote: In my opinion she should have a minimum amount of respect toward me. The fact that she doesn’t means she controls the disputes. If I never cross the line, then she will always “win.” If it never bothers her that she does this, then what does that say about the level of civility? How do you deal with this, other than leave?
Stopping her when the line is crossed by leaving the room and refusing to listen.
Do like HairDog and say you are going home if something happens in the car.
I had to resort to driving away from a resturant parking lot because BB kept saying there won't be any place to sit to eat when we went out to eat. It took a couple of trips back home and now I dont hear "there won't be any place to sit." I guess BB never heard of a wait line. Anyway, BB tried to make it my responsability seats were available the minuet we arrived. I am not playing that game. Peanutbutter and jelly sandwitches are better than complaints from her. Modify for your use.
Quote: I hope it has information for people in a HD/LD-ND relationship so there is a chance at more EC and sex/ML beyond theory.
This book is not about fixing a bad sex life. It is not about HD/LD or anything like that (althought there may be references in the book somewhere). The book is about masculinity and femininity. This is from a reader review
Quote: What this book ultimately reveals is a growing awareness of how men and women have both a male and female essence. The arc of polarity between the two is what counts in the realm of sexual satisfaction. If you have more masculine energy then you will attract a more feminine partner.
"For magnetic energy to flow, you need a north pole and a south pole. For sexual energy to flow, you need two poles too." ~David Deida
What makes a woman invite a man deeper into her world? Could it be as easy as the man listening to her and being fully present, strong and passionate? What are the qualities of an ideal woman? Yes, beauty does seem to be first, but intelligence is fifth on the list. It seems men want beauty and sex and women want presence and intelligence. Makes sense. What is a woman's deepest desire? It seems we women know what we want, but at times need to know why we are not attracting what we desire most.
Once you realize what attracts you to your opposite, you can start to work on areas to increase desire in your relationship. To find out which sexual essence you possess, there is a sexual essence quiz. This book also emphasizes the three main stages of Intimacy. Intimate Communion is the goal. This place where you are spontaneously loving or at least open as the sky. Where you see arguments as a place for self-improvement and welcome anger, extreme lust, the feminine sea of emotions and masculine possession.
This is not primarily a "relationship fixing" book. It's more about looking at your own masculinity/femininity and seeing where that is hindering or facilitating communication with the man/woman in your life.
