Quote: This is part of OG Lou's problem, he is having a hard time getting out of his own way. Men are susceptible to this as they like predictability. We know what we like and that is what we want. The same way every time. Very resistant to change or variety.
So, I guess you are saying that wanting to do the right things, being nice, avoiding conflict, rescuing BB when she feels like life short changed her is not helping our situation very much. I agree.
Re BF to Lou
Quote: You have to compromise and determine how much validity, while not ignoring your needs.
That is the balance I try to practice.
Quote: Have you started 'walking the dogs' with her each day to give you guys some 'chit chat time', and incorporating some physical activity at the same time?
I suggested it but got turned down. BB did her work out and treadmill time for the day so said she had enough physical activity and wanted to rest the rest of the day. I will bring it up several more times and at different times of the day, trying to substitute her work-out time for us time.
Quote: Probably getting cold up there by now, though.
From a reply to Cobra. Any opinions?
Cobra, I used to let small insults go by without saying anything but they got worse until I said how they sounded to me and what the insults ment to me. ((past history to set the stage for cobra))
I know not responding to some things is what to do sometimes and working through insults or "You always" statements is what to do other times. You have to know which battle to fight.
BB and I were talking and she said I needed to move some things but my van was full of cardboard. I said Yes, doesn't it accumulate fast.(in a tone that tried to convey something like "it's amazing how fast the stuff accumulates) That pile in my van (van not driven) is from things we bought in the last 30 days. BB said I was collecting it for the last year and it might be another year before I got rid of it.
(side note-BB seems to try to change what actually happens, I have heard other people refer to this as "trying to re-write the marrital history.)
I said, "Didn't I just say the cardboard was from what we bought in the last month and mostly from the bathroom re-model." I left it at that.
Good? Bad? Did I bite too hard? Did I detach quick enough?
) it was 72f by 3PM. The weather is influenced alot by the jet stream and we get some temp increases by something called "down slopping compression", the air gets warmer/heats up as the stream of air goes from a high elevation to a lower elevation, it compresses. See 