Quote: Something different happened last night. BB said one reason she has trouble sleeping with me is, normally I keep her awake and she only sleeps 2 out of 8 to 10 hours. I countered with "that sounds crazy, not logical." To which she said "so now I am crazy?" I said if I kept her from sleeping that much, why did she even want me around. Later she change it to sometimes I keep her awake.
I asked about the cats and dogs chasing and barking keeping her awake. BB said they don't. Just me, the fax calls, and the train that is 2 miles away.
Then BB said since I did not take her telling me, I keep her awake, too well, she would not answer any questions like that again.
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Lou, you're having discussions again.
And I don't see what happened as being "different" -- the talking part, that is. Her wanting to sleep close to you is a good sign. (Of course, I was not there, so you're the final authority on that.)
I think these endless pointless discussions comfort her in some way and take the edge off for her. THAT'S why I don't want you to have them. It's like when the crucible for HER starts heating up, you have one of these back-and-forth he-said-she-said exchanges, you wind up rubbing her back, and no progress is made.
WHAT IS THE POINT OF THESE POINTLESS DISCUSSIONS!?!?!?!?!?
The only thing they do is temporarily soothe her... but they don't do a thing for you. Let her stew for a while. Let her be uncomfortable. Let her experience the discomfort that her position creates FOR HER. Your discomfort does not move her to action, but HER discomfort might.
