RE HP
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Any and all free time need to be devoted to getting rid of the excess inventory.

I can do some of this with no goal/pay off in mind but yes it is opposed to everything I ever worked for. I sold a printer for $400, 2 weeks age that I might have gotten $150 for on eBay. I have another printer I will try to sell for $200 that sells for $75 on eBay. The big difference in prices, is I recondition the printers and warranty them.
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It is completely unfair and unacceptable to say that BB needs to stretch herself out of her comfort zone (ie, have more sex) but you are allowed to stall and dilly dally on the inventory.

What about the other things I do for her? They seem to not count for much. And more sex? Some how I think there would be a back door/way out of this too.

I am not discounting what you say as I thought out your plan many times and wondered if it would work. How is this?

Lou retires now or soon. gets rid of the inventory, fixes up the house, installs a home gym in the basement next to the hot tub and B does not have to cook much anymore. OG has lots of sex. untill next medical situation a month or two later indicates sex is bad for someone.

Same situation but no differences in physical touch/sex. House fixed up, junk all gone, house ready to sell, another reason for little sex, do a split, OG travels around for a while, finds things he likes. BB buys her condo, gets more dogs, asks OG to come over to fix something, she is lonely, OG says he has a TV dinner with his name on it, can't come over, meeting friends in 1 hour. OR, BB finds a boyfriend, they spend her money, he splits when she is broke......

Just thinking out loud HP.

She is the one who retired early, did not stick to our agreement about her retiring early, just quit 6 months ahead of the agreeded early time, which was almost 4 years ahead of the normal time. Guess I have to get that old retirement plan thinking out of my head.
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I used to suck at it sooooo badly. I would start fights and purposely pick the opposite viewpoint of his and then tear into him with my verbal skills.

Sounds like what is going on here HP, not only with talks but with things I am doing. Are women "sistas"???? BB's Devil's advocate is telling me "Yes that is nice but you should have done Y instead."
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she's flat out telling you that her resentment over the inventory is preventing a lot of forward growth.

But can I trust what she says??? She seems to back out of some things.

BB did admit to doing the opposite of what people want. It is an attitude she said she gets. The more someone wants something and pushes for it, the more she is going to resist. It's like "chase me but I don't want to be caught" or Mrs. hairdog giving in to sex only after hairdog quits asking, needing or wanting sex.

Underdog said she threw out mini-bombs in her M and was an angry person because she felt ignored. Maybe BF has something about men being simple and women complicated. Again are women "sistas"?

HP, I see value in what you say but I don't think BB will change her desire patterns. She told me one time she had the feeling (sexual) for a long time, got frustrated after her Hysterectomy and my back surgery, and does not want to ever be frustrated that way again. She said she never wants to have feelings for a man that cause her to be frustrated again so she does attempt to get anything sexual out of intercourse or petting.

She does realise men/me need some sexual outlet but wished my needs would disapear too. It's like why mess up something fairly good with all of that sex stuff. It is messy, gives women UTI's, and guys just do nice things for women to get into their pants. She said why can't I be like most men my age and have ED problems. I over stated the points to let you see BB's one extreem of feelings.

Another thought I had, I pretended I was single and a condition to date BB was that I had to have a neat house, was retired, eat out often, go to dog and cat shows with her pets, and BB would be pleasant and loving to me but little sex. We would both spend what we wanted to and if we were ever broke, we could apply for public housing and still live together like good friends.

Lou