Quote: She said she does love me but my things just frustrate her so much she can't show the love. She said I am doing the wrong things by spending time reading books, reading relationship articles, and posting on the interner.
Lou, This is where you need to focus your energies. Any and all free time need to be devoted to getting rid of the excess inventory.
It is completely unfair and unacceptable to say that BB needs to stretch herself out of her comfort zone (ie, have more sex) but you are allowed to stall and dilly dally on the inventory. Even if you have to take a loss on some of the stuff, I think you should do it. It would be a huge act of goodwill and filling her love tank.
She is giving you a map to her heart and you are saying, Yeah but I can get good money for this stuff....
Which might be true, but time's a wastin. I see BB making tiny little baby steps in your direction and I see you doing LOTS of stuff for her, but not the things she says would fill her tank, kwim?
I know how hard it is to fill your spouses tank when it's diametrically opposed to your nature, but that's life, eh? H likes spiritual discussions and I have had to develop a knack for having them. Oh Lou, I used to suck at it sooooo badly. I would start fights and purposely pick the opposite viewpoint of his and then tear into him with my verbal skills. Devil's advocate to the extreme, with the emphasis on "devil", lol.
Anyway, I think there's a lot of good going on in your house...she's making steps towards you but she's flat out telling you that her resentment over the inventory is preventing a lot of forward growth. Imo, that's where you need to focus. And fast.
Good luck and pay no mind to her worrywarting. Enjoy yourself; you've earned it!
