Lil your suggested statement was awesome. I am not a woman and dont know exactly why it works so well, I just do what works... but when you tell them something in this vein, youll miss me, you think I am so cool, etc, they just stop and stare at you like you are a phsycic.
about anxiety attacks, my x reported that she had many during our first seperation. work stopping, cant breathe or function. Today she texted and 2 minutes later called. I was working, she left voicemail. She had one halfway thru, first voice cracking, then crying then ...you can hear it. But the call was to inform me of irrelevant financial matters long ago taken care of and an apology for the D papers that will probably arrive in the Mail on my Bday. She is sorry, its not revenge, it just happened that way. Already know, been said before.
Lets see x you are doing something that is causing you tremendous pain, guilt, depression and severe anxiety. We have only talked 10? times in the past 6 months, and I have ignored everything for the past 2. Why are you doing it? Oh yes I am a bad husband and bad for you. I tend to forget things I dont believe sometimes....especially since I know alternative well. But that has nothing to do with it. Uh huh.
However that IS her perception of me, and I respect that she is doing what is best for her. Be happy, Be Well, you will get over it sooner with no contact. Since this is what you want, I am still trying to do what is best for you.
OG needed to purge, anxiety attack reference no responses necessary to this. Please. I dont want this to become a hijack.
Cobra I agree with you about the anxiety attack. again its not malicious or intentional but it is a test. you pass with strength and confidance and redirecting/moving on to a positive perception.
OG I think you are really on to some good things. Two thumbs up.
