I read this web page and mostly remember BB sayinf urinatrion was painful/burning untill she took the medication ?name? then the anti-biotics. She did have a urine sample analised for bacteria and those results said she had a UTI.
That was last April? or so. None (UTI's) since I read the books, condensed it down, and printed it out for her to read. Then BB read one of the books.
I am not about to be a mini-expert on VS. That would not go over with BB. She has been treated every couple of years for UTI's so believes it's the problem if she has symptoms. It's been working, so who am I to get her to look at a different problem.
Quote: I'm telling you this in the hope you inverstigate your wife's symptoms more as frequent UTI's can be a trigger factor for VS.
I do apreciate your suggestions, so don't think I will not be looking for symptoms. If I see something that matches, I will do more reading.
Quote: if I can have a frequent SL with VS, then she should be able to have a SL with you, with UTI's.
Yes she could if she wanted to or got more out of a SL.
BB said she shut her sexual feelings off/lost them about 20 years ago. We were having some troubles and I was recovering from back surgery and could not do much for a couple of months. She said she was so frustrated because not much sexual was happening, she never wanted to be that dependent again on someone for a sexual outlet.
Some of this was said out of resentment/anger, so I don't know if it was 100% true, in all cases/circumstances.
So, there is the emotional component I have to work with. I can change me. I don't know about her. Also, I do know BB's body is not working like it used to sexually. So some loss of interest in sex is aging and some is mental.
