Sweet,

I really enjoy it tremendously when the blow it out your a$$ approach works. The tight rope act is to not go overboard with and be controlling in return.

A nice side benefit was finding out that she thought that way, because she cares about you, and SOOOO much so that she wants you to have a new car!. She wants you to come back.
RIGHT ON. one thing extra you could do in this situation next time is to ASSUME that she worrys--because she loves you- and tease her about it. If it is true, she will feel like you understand her and feel vulnerable closer to you as a result. That is a good thing.
If it isnt the reason, it will put the thought in her head. WIN/WIN.


Example. You just dont want me to drive, cause youll miss me soooo much, having no one around to work on the house..... joking voice....


Its good to look at them as 'tests' Lou, but understand that they are not maliciously plotted, or consciously concieved.

The 'well see about that' statement was a upping the ante test of your strength, a double check so to speak. The strength is unexpected and had to be 'probed a bit' for belief. The further probing didnt faze you either, and voila the attraction was dialied up a little bit.

I love it so much. Isnt it fun?

BB can really creat a disaster in her mind. This is a constant problem. The recent snowstorm problems, being prepared for a terroist atack (In Montana?), West Nile Virus? and wanting to stay home when it snows 2 inches are re-occuring topics of discussion

in the future instead of trying to discount or logical her out of these, try just looking at her, not condescendingly but not with understanding either. hard to put into words..... more like a HmmmPhhh. Silly girl. I have this uner control.

Trying to rationalize them with her gives them credence.


perception of what is said can vary so much, I am at a loss for words

Assume the positive and spin it that way in your response, Strong- 'I am driving'- positive- 'you will miss me'- spun- with humor.

Dont dread the 'tests' have fun with them. It makes the R vibrate, you are in tune with her, she knows it, is thrown off balance a bit yet loves it, and humor is good for all.