Doing the Right Thing 2

[OG_Lou]

Re Jill

I really don't miss my XH one iota and it only takes a couple of minutes talking to him to make me realize that I'm better off with the peace of mind I have now

I got that and agree by what you say in your posts.

re: dream house is that I could've afforded to stay in it, I think.

You mean you could have but it would have been a strain is what I think you are implying.

it was a very long time ago but occasionally it still knocks me down emotionally

I don't think thoughts about what could have been ever go away. Maybe they hurt a little less as the years go by.

My kids would be 16 years apart!!!!

My oldest sister is 18 years older than me.

She was a mistake, but definitely the best one I ever made!!!

Never a mistake from what I read . If it was, it certanially was a one.

he and I worked out a deal where I don't have to give him half of it.

Do I detect a better shoping day in the making? JK.

He has no retirement so in the long run,

Can he sleep in the dog house out back JK again.

Women want "strong" men (most of the time).

I have been called controlling more than once. So all of thei co-dependency stuff is hog wash?

If you let "us" boss you around, it causes us to wonder if you are strong enough to count on when there is a crisis

This is the first board that I have read that states this. I hear what some women say IRL and here it is the opposite. And to think, I have been lied to all this time!

serious I did not want to be domineering and say "my way or the highway"

I probably didn't explain that very well.

You did/are doing it as we post here. Everyone comes from a little different place so what you write may not be what I read and visa versa. People here do take the time to explain things very well if you read long enough.

Take care, glad to hear things are going better.

Lou