"I actually have quite a bit of sympathy for them."
As do I. Both my parents had rougher childhoods than me, especially my mother who was severely physically and sexually abused by her parents.
"but I don't use them as a way to justify the choices I make today." Neither do I. I see my past experiences as influencing how I perceive events, but the choices are all mine.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"