My approach to this was: I will deal with it honestly, and without sparing his feelings, if and when it ever comes up.
It did come up and I handled it quite well, though not without temporary emotional upheaval. I did not attack--it wasn't necessary. Cobra you are right in that it felt good to speak those words out loud but had I never spoken them, I would still be responsible for being the person I am today.
I derived NO satisfaction from taking my dad down a notch. I found it all to be rather sad and pathetic, if you want to know the truth.
You know, sometimes I think we delude ourselves into thinking that if we "really let em have it" we will feel better but the only thing we feel afterwards is as much of a schmuck as the other person always acts like, kwim?
I think globule will get far more benefits from changing his thinking about himself than he will from attacking his changed father. It is HE who is clinging on to the childhood image he has of himself, no one is forcing this. He can shed it, though it will be hard.
I'm just not sure how beneficial airing dirty laundry is.
