While the EA may be in her mind right now causing problems, the lack of affection/intimacy/sex had been going on LONG before
I know. I have no doubts about your love for your wife, or your desire to make a great marriage. I dont see anything you say here as bashing her. vent away. you cant live with em, you cant hunt em.
One thing you might want to do is print out or save your first thread, there was a lot of good advice in there, and as you go thru this I think you will start to understand some of it even more.
Try to keep the wild hairs to yourself when you feel like running in and doing, trying, fixing things RIGHT NOW, because "OH I GET it now type thinking." It will come off as insincere, not trustworthy, unstable, and after awhile, predictable. Stable is good, predictable is bad, bad, bad for attraction.
