I understand about the excessive posting. I was beginning to wonder about that too. I hope no one here was offended or upset by all the off-topic posting. I just saw it as a way to vent my feelings without bombarding my wife. I do want to continue to post here because I feel you all have given me lots of great advice, things to talk to the C about, and ways to plan for the future. I see now that the thoughts I had about my R before coming to this board were way off-base, so I think you guys have helped me have a chance to save my marriage. Sorry again, if the jibber-jabber got excessive.

I got you message LFL and will respond soon. Got a busy morning because I will be out of town for most of the day. It'll be fun to talk about wine and stuff, a good distraction from all the serious things (that I do like to talk about as well). That way we can focus on the serious stuff here (with a joke or two thrown in from time to time ... I've been enjoying reading the banter on some of the other threads like OG_Lou's).

Yep, some progress yesterday and I feel much better and relaxed because of it. Just like there was a vicious circle working in the opposite direction (no affection - get anxious - act silly - less attractive - no affection) there can be a circle working in the positive direction (a little affection - more relaxed and confident - act cool - more attractive - more affection). I hope I can stay in that circle for awhile.


"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"

Inertia Creeps by Massive Attack