Ok, stealing a few minutes while they sit quietly watching Monsters Inc. I'm determined to get them into bed early tonight is it's the last thing I do

I am really beginning to feel detached from her, and I don't want that. I know the MC session is not going to be the holy grail, but it can't come too soon. I think if I have to wait much longer to at least start airing some of this stuff out, I'll either go crazy or just completely shut off.
 Like I've said before, try not to look too far into the future. I know that is hard but it has helped me some. Try and vent here, to friends, but not her. It will only make things worse at this point. She has made it clear through words and actions that she is not ready to really address these issues (with some good reasons, the baby, etc). Do you have friends (other than us, lol) that you can spend some time with and get a shoulder to cry on? Too bad you had the cancellations this weekend. Can you talk to anyone there about any of this? I talk to my best girlfriends but I still don't open up as much as I can on this board. They are not going through it so it is harder for them to understand and give feedback. Still, getting a needed pat on the back or hug helps. You are defintely in need of some TLC and TOUCH.
You are too good at succinctly describing exactly how I feel Not too good, I just can relate to you and I have those same feelings most of the time. That's why I was so drawn to your posts when you first started writing. I kept saying to myself, "Wow this guy thinks just like me." SCARY
I feel comfortable talking to you about these things. I hope so because I want to listen. I sense you feel the same way so it's nice
One difference between us (OH NO!!!) is that I want to deal with this issues head-on and start fixing them, but the conventional wisdom is that I need to just back off. Differences? What? LOL Of course we have differences, especially considering I am female and you are male. That's a big enough difference alone But I see what you are saying, men tend to be very direct when there is a problem and want to "fix" it, find a solution, etc. Women are usually not as practical. Your W is demonstrating that. I'm sure she is very aware of the problems but realizes there are other things she needs to deal with right now and as painful as it is, the SL is not one of them. She is probably feeling overwhelmed, tired, and let's face it, angry at you. Can't really blame her for not reacting the same way you are. I do this with H all the time. Thus I'm on here venting to you instead of letting it fly with him. It won't be productive. He won't be able to "fix" it like we've just said and I don't need to add more stress to the situation than there already is. MAybe your W is thinking something similar. She doesn't have any solutions so she will just redirect her energy to the kids. Just a woman's point of view there
I probably wouldn't mind being wherever you are, but you'd hate it out here. Remember, no coffee shops How is that possible (no coffee shops)? Don't rural folk like to drink there coffee in the morn? I can't comprehend any of this!!
Ok, there's the response to your first post. At this rate, I'll catch up by dawn Sadly, I have nothing else to do so...