perhaps I overstated how comfortable we really were with our decision to not make it physical. There were several times when I know in my mind I was inches away from giving in. She admitted on several occasions that she felt the same way. I'd like to think that we didn't give in because we were both "strong" (in that regard anyway), but it may have been just dumb luck that we both weren't on the edge at the same time.
 I doubt it was dumb luck. It was interesting that you said you both weren't on the "edge" at the same time. I think that makes sense. When one person let their guard down the other one put it up. That's what kept it safe, comfortable. You both wanted to express those feelings but knew that it was going to lead somewhere even more dangerous so you both consciously and subconsciously reacted to each other in ways that prevented it.
I guess I've been eating angel food my whole life That was a good one.
Still legally separated? Yep. Another Mexican Standoff, lol. Neither one of us have brought it up. I think we are both assuming we will wait a little longer to make sure everything is going fairly well. It's still all so fresh (the reconcilation). Honestly, I don't want to deal with it right now. It makes it so "official." For some reason I like the fact that the clock is still ticking so to speak, towards the OPTION of divorce. Crazy isn't it? If we take the paperwork off the record (at the courts) that's that. In NY, you need to be legally separated 1 year before you can get divorced (unless you have grounds such as adultery, abuse, etc). I guess I'm not as invested/committed to the M as I thought. Although he's being no different. All of our finances and everything are still separate. It's hard enough dealing with all the emotions right now. The paperwork is just not a priority. So far things have worked out ok so we'll see what happens. Guess I better address it sooner or later. Choosing later for now.