"Maybe even confront her in the C session if she does not seem to be making any progress/changes after a few weeks/months of C" I hope it doesn't come to that. But you are right, if she isn't going to participate, why are we going to C?
"Moved full steam ahead towards legal separation (which we still are), and moved on without him." Still legally separated? I guess since I never contemplated that, I don't know what that means. Would you have to "file" something that says you are no longer separated?
"Oh surprise, just happened to want me back when I didn't want him anymore. Men!" We are poor saps for sure!
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"