"By "don't internize" I took blackfoot to mean, "don't necessarily take her words to heart." That did NOT mean keep your feelings inside. Mrs NOP put it well (also way back yonder)-- listen, pay attention, but don't assume every little thing is written in concrete. People's moods change. "Don't internalize" in this context means "don't assume every little comment, mood, remark is being handed down in tablets of stone from the mountaintop.""
MUCH clearer now. Thanks Lillie. I personally like Mel Brooks' version of the handing down of the commandments ("History of the World part I ).
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
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