I am remembering a lot of fantasizing about other women in the months leading up to this summer and the EA. Strange that I forgot all about that until now. That's a red flag that there is something detrimental going on in the M. A little fantasy is normal but I was doing it A LOT. Maybe you were too. Interesting that you suppressed it. I was always very conscious of it.
I have so much respect for social scientists, there are really no rules that can be universally applied. Very true
Whenever I hear one of my students saying "I'm getting married" I have to bite my tongue from giving lots of dire warnings and saying "boy are you in for it." DOH! I do that all the time! Are you sure we're not the same person