"Globe I do not think if you stop doing things for your children is a 180. Even if for some odd reason this helped your marriage think of how it would effect your relationship with your kids." You're right, that was kinda dumb. Even though I am partially doing things with the kids to help the W, it is also for them too and it is good for me.
A good example (the pillow thing)! Very concrete. I'll process. Thanks! (That was a 180 for me, short sentences ).
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Even though I am partially doing things with the kids to help the W, it is also for them too and it is good for me. 
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