I asked the C about reading sex books and her answer was, "she won't be interested in sex for one year so don't torture yourself thinking about it." I have never heard of such bs. Not that she stated your W won't be interested in sex for one year (that is your W's statement), but that the C validated all of it and basically BLEW YOU OFF. That is NOT a good sign. I would ABSOLUTELY confront the C on this statement and ask her to back up her reasoning. How is that helping the M considering that is what you consider to be the "fig leaf" as you put it.
Do you think my C loved me