Glob, glob, glob, The 180's should not be solely in the form of abdicating your familial responsibilities!
Try this: Instead of being grabby and needy, be confident and strong. If you have been sad and mopey, try acting as if you are cheerful and happy. ETC.
Think of how you normally are..particularly the ways that don't net you the results you are after..and try something different. An example of one of mine is to be MUCH less opinionated. Or, rather, keep my strong opinions but allow H to speak his and validate them when he says them. I used to try to run roughshod over him and the convos always turned bad. I do not do this anymore. I let him speak, validate his thoughts, and things are much much better.
My point is to think of an area which does not turn out the way you'd hope and do something different.
Most likely you will have to really force the issue with your W. But....as I keep saying ( ) now is not the time. If you play your cards right, she will be in a good frame of mind when counseling starts. If you play your cards in a selfish manner, she will be too pissed and resentful to be willing to listen to you, much less go along with fixing your R.
Take care! Focus on your own goals this week so that by the time C starts, your wife will have had a little time to get to know the New Glob.
) now is not the time. If you play your cards right, she will be in a good frame of mind when counseling starts. If you play your cards in a selfish manner, she will be too pissed and resentful to be willing to listen to you, much less go along with fixing your R.