"Haven't you talked to her about this? I mean her desire for sex, not her ploy. Did you talk to her about that week she wanted sex and now does not? Does she give you any answers?" We have talked about it a bit, and her answer is "I don't know, but I think my hormones were finally all in sync for the first time in our marriage." I plan to bring it up as an issue in MC. This issue really is the fig leaf for me. If I can truly believe that she can be that way again, then the waiting becomes MUCH MUCH easier. The problem is her answer to can you be that way again is "I don't know."
"I remember you saying in one of your posts that you were afraid what the answer would be. Can't blame you there." I am afraid but I also need to know the answer.
"Is she the one who came up with the 1 year (gulp) time line? Sorry for blasting you with all the questions but you know I am genuinely interested and care about you Globule so I am rolling along with my assertive self" Yes. She is the one who basically stated that she wouldn't be interested in sex while she was nursing. I think she is basing it on what happened while the twins are nursing. The counselor validated that thought. I asked the C about reading sex books and her answer was, "she won't be interested in sex for one year so don't torture yourself thinking about it." Yeah right. She don't know me very well (said in a Bugs Bunny voice).
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
