From your posts, it seems that you have a lot on your mind and heart. I get the impression that your mind is racing. From your other post, it sounds like H's experience in Iraq has really affected him. In my case, I found some peace in understanding WAW's past experiences and how it affected her current feelings and reactions to those feelings. In your case, I'd suggest learning as much as you can about post tramatic stress. H may be exeriencing this and reacting to it. Also read the DR book and read broadly on the subject of marriage and realtionships.
In the future, shorter posts with summerized details may result in more responses.
It sounds like some things are going ok for you & H.
