Little background Me 40 W 33 married 5 yrs 1 step son
Im a sud contractor (frame Homes) W Is a Home Daycare Provider
when I found out my W was chatting with a guy from SC on the comp, took it apon myself to see if anything was going on check my phone records and found several incoming calls from SC. Asked the W who this was sense I knew she didnt know anyone from there.. Then it all hit the fan.. I found out that my W had fallen out of love with me almost a year ago and was unhappy w/ our relationship. I do spend alot of time on comp games to past the time as does she. When we started talking about this all she would say is "I dont know what I want" and that she doesn't think it work anyways. It turns out that she wanted help around the house, dishes,laundry,helping with the our son. And was looking for attention,affection,me to express love, in turn I have immeaditly started to do everything she wanted. I try to talk with her and everytime we talk I find out more on what I what she thinks or feels. At first she had no feeling for me,then it was I care and worry bout you (Me) later I found out she still Loves me just isnt in love w/ me.. The only thing is we still live under the same roof,sleep in the same bed I cuddle with her nightly, Kissing i get the cheek and if im lucky the lips.. Our families and friends didnt even see this coming and keep telling me to fight, I am and I will not stop.. As far as I can tell we lost or romance and took each other for granted..
Recap: We are working on our problems. I do the dishes when ever there some,and do everything I can to help. We have bout 1 hour talks weather its work or bout us.W did say that she doesnt want to leave and is afraid that all this will happen again, Well we desided to start dating again the 2 of us and regain the spark and romance, Our first date is this friday for dinner w/o the kid then friends r showing up afterward for the band ( by the way she asked me to go) I really feel she is still in love with me cause I had asked her if she was playing hard to get and she maybe (w/ a smile)I just informed her that those kinds of things r what i need to know that the thing Im doing r working..
Sorry if this seams cut up and jumpy Im a horrible writer and will fill in anything that is needed to get a little help that really think I need
Get the book called "Divorce Remedy"...it should be at your public library...I too found out my H had someone else...only thing was, they had sex too. Thus far, I am in same boat as you so can't offer much advise other than read all you can about how men express affection vs. how women express affection (Men Are From Mars, Women From Venus is a good book)...and read up on Mid Life Crisis, cause she may be there too...hope this helps...will watch your postings to see if I can offer more help to you.
