A New Beginning

[Determined_Doug]

I know that I do this distancing thing from him. After so many weeks of feeling close(r), I start to feel anxious and start thinking negative things about him..... It's like I can't overcome this barrier of trust. I am so afraid to trust him. I always have been and he didn't do anything to cause me not to trust him in the beginning.

Hi
Your post caught my eye because the way you describe yourself reminds me of how my W behaves. It seems that we can't go for more that a few months without her discovering some major reason to distance herself from me. I have been striving to understand what goes through her mind at these times as it is very disturbing and confusing for me. She distances herself physically and emotionally and doesn't seem to care at all what it is doing to us.

My question to you is this...can you describe further to me your insights into why this happens? I am beginning to suspect that my W has either BPD (Borderline personality disorder) or at least tendancies towards it. (not that I am in any way even suggesting that this might be your issue!!!)