Hey Kim, what can I say: OW sounds like a major space cadet! I agree with VJ, don't let her craziness and manipulation get to you. This is the time for H to see how calm, centred and sane you are
Bring it on give me all your thoughts am I doing this wrong, am I being too trusting, is it a waste of time, who knows
IMHO, you are doing everything right. Hang in there