H is too confusing for words

[Burgbud]

Nice work, KDU. Everything I see in your sitch tells me you're playing this the right way. Stay strong and don't give in to the temptation to make things easy on him. Showing him you don't need him has been working the best for you; don't back off until he's truly shown you he's willing to try to walk the walk.

Let me ask you something...even if this doesn't work out with Tony the way you want it to...do you feel more powerful and dignified to have gotten to the place you can tell him you don't want him if he doesn't want you, and really mean it?