H is too confusing for words

[kaydeekay]

KDU: Just read your post and all I can say is wow. I think you did an exceptional job with your talk with H. He now knows how you are feeling and where you stand. You are right in telling him that he has to make his own decisions, not you.

I did the same thing as you did when I kept telling H to go back to OW. I think once my H knew I didn't care if he was with her, he realized that I would be gone for good. I haven't updated my sitch in awhile so I guess I need to do that.