You are where I need to be right now. I admire the guts it took to say what you needed to, and to get your head where you needed it to be.
Thanks BB but it has taken a long time to get here and I have no idea how it is going to turn out but I do know I am alot stronger and able to cope either way. I just know for me, he needed to see that he had fault to b/c if he couldn't see that then there really was no hope and you know what I think he saw it for the first time since the bomb.
I said my piece, but I did validate him and I still detached b/c he was trying to get me to help him make his decision about me or the OW and I said I wouldn't help him as that was his own decision. I could only suggest he looks at both people and alot of scenarios with both and see who pulls on his heartstrings the most.
I told him I didn't want to give him too much advice as I didn't want it to seem that Iwas manipulating the sitch or feathering my own nest, I was just trying to get him to see it from OW's side, my side and his own side. He realised this. I did say to him that maybe he should just go with OW and he said he knew if he did that this time I was gone for good and he had some thinking to do b/c he didn't know if he could handle that and after some of the things I had said, he now realised things were not as he thought they were. That I had opened his eyes to a few things.
So I don't know if this is good or bad but I am comfortable with all that I have said and I said it was best if we didn't speak until he works for us on Thursday, lets see if he can stick to it??????
You will get there BB it takes times and many ups and downs a long the way...>KDU
