Sorry...it's been a while since I have been reading/posting. Just found your new thread. What can I say? Everyone has said it all (as always). The wisdom and support here is amazing.
As I read this all I kept thinking: Yes, that's exactly it. Yes, I want to respond to that. Yes, I understand where you are coming from. There is too much to comment on.
Simply said, I think you have handled yourself extremely well. It's all about grace under pressure. You've got it, baby.
I really identify with your post regarding your S. I am facing a similar thing with my D7. You know, it's really fine if they (WAS) want to play headgames with us. We are grown. Painful as it is...we will make it. But WTF? Can they not see the looks on the face of their children. OMG.... I totally can't even begin to comprehend that.
