(((((KimDownUnder)))))...

I am so sorry for all of the pain you are enduring right now... I truly believe it is your H's loss...
Your H still may be trying to convince himself that he is making the right decision, but I do not think he will ever TRULY believe it... (the fact that he drove away from your office very subdued and with tears in his eyes is a perfect example of that)...
I honestly do not think he will ever be able to truly find peace with his decision. In my opinion, your H is acting very selfish and he will somehow have to find a way to live with the guilt of walking away from the marriage. At some point, I am sure that he WILL regret what he is doing and who knows where you will be at that point.

Kim, if you still want your H back and for him to see what a wonderful person you are, GREAT!...
If or when that happens, that ship may have sailed.
You may have already found someone truly amazing...
Someone who will be your support and love you unconditionally. Someone who can show you what a loving relationship is really all about... By facing the difficult challenges of everyday life and working through them TOGETHER... Kim, you are such a warm, thoughtful, and caring woman and you deserve the very best life has to offer you!

I find when I am struggling with my situation, it helps me out some when I BLAST the song: "Since You've Been Gone",
by Kelly Clarkson... (Okay, so I may be a little too "mature" to own her latest CD, but I must admit that I love that song! )...
The lyrics are simply perfect and they even remind me of your issues with your H...
"ALL YOU'D EVER HEAR ME SAY, IS HOW I PICTURE ME WITH YOU,
BUT SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE, I CAN BREATHE FOR THE FIRST TIME... I'M SO MOVING ON... THANKS TO YOU, NOW I GET WHAT I WANT... SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE---
HOW CAN I PUT IT, YOU PUT ME ON... I EVEN FELL FOR THAT STUPID LOVE SONG, SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE...
HOW COME I NEVER HEAR YOU SAY, I JUST WANNA BE WITH YOU... GUESS YOU NEVER FELT THAT WAY---
YOU HAD YOUR CHANCE, YOU BLEW IT... OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND... SHUT YOUR MOUTH, I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT...
AGAIN, AND AGAIN, AND AGAIN, AND AGAIN!!!!!"....

Kim, it is the BEST song! I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers... So sorry that your H can not see what a truly amazing woman you are!
Thinking of you, -OC Kim