KDU - I'm so sorry he did this to you again, I was hoping things would have been different this time and I know you do too.

Am I doing everything the wrong way? Am I controlling without even knowing it.

It's not you, it's not anything your doing or not doing, its not anything your saying or not saying..........it's all about him and he's too confused to STILL figure out what he wants, he gets cold feet at every turn.

I wish I had some words of wisdom but I dont, I only know how frustrated you must feel. Maybe now would be a good time to detach a bit, not be so accessable to H for a while?

Again, Im so sorry.